To Please a Woman

 Honestly, Dude!

You might be wondering why in the world someone would create a site titled “To Please a Woman!”  Well, come on now, isn’t that the mystery we men all seek to find the answer to?  (It sure was for me, and for years,  I stumbled blindly, never knowing for sure if I was doing the right things to please her). Secrets reveal how to solve the mystery.

In my gut, I always knew that what a woman needs to feel sexually fulfilled was a bit different than what it takes for us guys.  I’m just an average guy, but I’m no dummy, either.  Still, no matter what I tried, I always felt a little confused.  I always felt that I couldn’t put my finger on what the key was – like there was some secret out there on the best way to satisfy a woman, and I just didn’t know what it was.

Without it, I kept trying to figure it out and stumbling from one disastrous relationship to the next, never understanding what went wrong.  After all, wasn’t I doing everything I had learned I was supposed to do?  What’s the problem here?

One day a light bulb finally went off and it began to dawn on me that this might be caused by the same male gene that prompts us to drive aimlessly lost, all the while refusing to stop to ask directions.  Or to struggle assembling our new bike without reading the instruction book first.  We think we’ll just figure it out.  Ok, so sometimes it does work out and we manage just fine.

But, honestly, dude.  Remember what it was like when you learned your new job or your favorite sport?  It took skills, and it took time to learn those skills…after all, you weren’t born with them – you had to learn them.

Fore!

Well, maybe some of you were but here’s what happened to me when I decided to learn to play golf.  I was already a pretty accomplished surfer and skateboarder so balance and timing all came easy to me.  Simple, right?  First time out with my buddies, I sliced the ball off the tee and it ricocheted off the cart and smacked my friend Gary square in the forehead!  Honest!

After 5 stitches and numerous apologies from me, he finally forgave me.  How humiliating!!!  It was then and there that I decided to become a student and learn everything I could about golf.  A few years later, I still learn every chance I get, but the result is that I don’t have to worry about humiliating myself or my friends ever again.

SO, here then is the natural question.  Why do we think we just “know” how to bring a woman to climax and pleasure her in the bedroom without learning the necessary techniques?  Beats me!  Speaking for myself, my extent of education about sex came mainly from magazines, videos and exaggerated locker room tales of conquests.  Is it any wonder that after a brief encounter in college with my dream girl, Karen, that she broke it off and moved on?  I was devastated.

My Dream Girl

She was everything I wanted and more – beautiful, smart, funny, sexy, athletic and non-clingy.  She loved being spontaneous and never complained.  But during sex, and especially after, I began to realize she was becoming more and more distant.  Hence, this was the biggest clue to the reason for my loss.  I never got over losing her.

Then two years ago, I heard from a mutual friend that Karen was still single and going to be attending an upcoming class reunion.  Mustering up what was left of my dignity and my courage, I contacted her via Facebook and we started up an online friendship.  If this was going to be my second chance, I didn’t want to blow it!  I might only get one shot at this, and this time I was going to make sure I was prepared.  I knew I needed help on how to know a woman and on how to make love to her. 

Joe Wises Up

Applying the same theory I used to learn golf, I began to learn what I needed to do to please Karen.  I went straight to a sex expert this time.  Never for one minute did I feel dishonest about this – after all, I was in love with Karen and I really did want to understand her desires and know how to meet her needs.  Before, I just didn’t have the skills, but this time it would be different.  My story has a happy ending. What changed my life.

I am writing this because I was not capable by myself to stop from losing the only person that I felt I was truly meant to be with.   Another reason is that I finally gained the confidence I had been looking for and I finally overcame those feelings of inadequacies that had been dogging me,  so I wanted to share it.  And believe me, I know it will help!  What I learned really worked.  Karen never left my side (or my bed) that whole weekend of our class reunion.  I popped the question on the following Valentine’s Day and we were married last year.

We are still crazy about each other and almost every day, Karen tells me how happy I make her and how much I please her.  I know in my heart that this story might have had a different ending.  Karen could have had almost any guy she wanted, but she chose me – just an “average joe.”   The difference was that I had the secrets.  Discover the key to a happy ending.

I guarantee, I will remember the day I discovered them and how it changed my whole life.